I recently encountered four cases (discussed later ) of grown irresponsible men aged 21,25,27 40; they never had jobs and some desperate,compassionate or hopeful women take care of them. I have also met few people who refused my hand to help them carry their baggage to Jesus; they wanted me to be their Jesus who carry it for them; I said no! We must help people who are stuck while trying to fight unlike parasites who go shopping for tea and leave sugar behind intentionally because Oscar Goodfool would provide it with milk. Is it good to take other people's responsibilities? Does God take our responsibilities?
A 27 year old man’s girlfriend bought him a bakkie to help him make income but he bought more alcohol with girls whilst the good girlfriend stayed home worrying all the time. Like other women, she thought he would change in time and believe her kindness would change him but these men don’t change because they don’t know how to be responsible. We already discussed these bad boys in Choosing the wrong man series offerings, These men can hardly even change their own underwear because their mothers always did it for them. One of their emotional manipulation technique involves threatening or getting violent. When parents could not take responsibility to buy these boys a new pair of Nike shoes, the parasites screamed, “I hate you!" or " I’m gonna kill myself” and so parents ran around borrowing that R2000. So, now there must always be somebody in their lives who take that responsibility to provide for them, unfortunately it is the ignorant and desperate women who think it is love. What love got to do with it?
These children grow up to be adults who think that others are responsible for getting them their wants. A Girl gets multiple boyfriends if one cannot provide finances, transport, clothes, entertainment, etc at the convenient time of her want. The poor pastor has to wake up at 3 am to pray for her ... In fact, let me speak for pastors because they seem over-compassionate for the sheep:- It is not the pastor's responsibility to deal with your problems or to read the word for you and pray for you while you watch Generations and all the other junk with your cheap-talk friends who feed your mind with negativity that produce those problems. Let's go to the scriptures:-
Pastor's responsibility vs ours
These children grow up to be adults who think that others are responsible for getting them their wants. A Girl gets multiple boyfriends if one cannot provide finances, transport, clothes, entertainment, etc at the convenient time of her want. The poor pastor has to wake up at 3 am to pray for her ... In fact, let me speak for pastors because they seem over-compassionate for the sheep:- It is not the pastor's responsibility to deal with your problems or to read the word for you and pray for you while you watch Generations and all the other junk with your cheap-talk friends who feed your mind with negativity that produce those problems. Let's go to the scriptures:-
Pastor's responsibility vs ours
Ephesians 4:11-12 NLT Now these are the gifts Christ gave to the church: the apostles, the prophets, the evangelists, and the pastors and teachers. (12) Their responsibility is to equip God's people to do His work and build up the church, the body of Christ.
You are supposed to do the work yourself! Pastors are not even responsible for your spiritual growth!
Philippians 2:12 AMP Therefore, my dear ones, as you have always obeyed [my suggestions], so now, not only [with the enthusiasm you would show] in my presence but much more because I am absent, work out (cultivate, carry out to the goal, and fully complete) your own salvation with reverence and awe and trembling (self-distrust, with serious caution, tenderness of conscience, watchfulness against temptation, timidly shrinking from whatever might offend God and discredit the name of Christ).
For me to be were I am, it's not because I am special as others say, I remember listening to three Joyce Meyer messages a day while driving from and to work. There was a year I didn't even watch TV at all in order to spend time with God. I also set apart months to pray non-stop. You can manage to manipulate some weak or innocent pastor but you cant manipulate God to take your responsibilities.
What would Jesus do?
I was shocked when I read what Jesus did to the people after ministering to them in following scriptures :-
Philippians 2:12 AMP Therefore, my dear ones, as you have always obeyed [my suggestions], so now, not only [with the enthusiasm you would show] in my presence but much more because I am absent, work out (cultivate, carry out to the goal, and fully complete) your own salvation with reverence and awe and trembling (self-distrust, with serious caution, tenderness of conscience, watchfulness against temptation, timidly shrinking from whatever might offend God and discredit the name of Christ).
What would Jesus do?
I was shocked when I read what Jesus did to the people after ministering to them in following scriptures :-
John 5:14 NLT But afterward Jesus found him in the Temple and told him, "Now you are well; so stop sinning, or something even worse may happen to you."
John 8:10-11 NLT Then Jesus stood up again and said to the woman, "Where are your accusers? Didn't even one of them condemn you?" (11) "No, Lord," she said. And Jesus said, "Neither do I. Go and sin no more."
Mark 5:18-19 NLT As Jesus was getting into the boat, the man who had been demon possessed begged to go with Him. (19) But Jesus said, "No, go home to your family, and tell them everything the Lord has done for you and how merciful He has been."
Jesus healed people but told them to take responsibility of not sinning anymore, He even told the other one that worse things would come to him if he sinned again. Jesus never took responsibilities on how these new saved people would live afterwards, it was their own responsibility! Jesus even chased the legion man away so he can go do his own ministry and leave Jesus alone! So, I wonder why pastors beat up their heads over people who don't take responsibilities for themselves. In fact it is not the pastor's nor God's responsibility to heal anyone; Jesus was clear in all his healing that " your faith has healed you" ;Not God's power! The woman with the issue of blood touched Jesus to heal herself without Jesus' concern. Jesus even made some people take responsibilities to "earn" healing if they really wanted it:-
John 9:6-7 NLT Then He spit on the ground, made mud with the saliva, and sored the mud over the blind man's eyes. He told him, " Go wash yourself in the pool of Siloam". So the man went and washed and came back seeing.
Matthews 20:32-33 NLT When Jesus heard them, he stopped and called, “What do you want me to do for you?” 33 “Lord,” they said, “we want to see!”
Matthew 15:25-27 (NLT) 25 But she came and worshiped him, pleading again, “Lord, help me!” 26 Jesus responded, “It isn’t right to take food from the children and throw it to the dogs.” 27 She replied, “That’s true, Lord, but even dogs are allowed to eat the scraps that fall beneath their masters’ table.”
If the blind man did not go wash his eyes or the woman did not persist or the other blind man not tell Jesus what he wanted, they woulnt have been healed. It's really shocking to find out how many people would not tell the doctor exactly what the problem is but expect the doctor to heal them. I heard of a Christian girl who got pregant and had a failed abortion but died at the hospital because she did not tell the doctors and parents the truth, it was her responsibility!
So, if you don't have faith like those people Jesus healed, it is your responsibility to build it; how? Faith come by hearing and hearing by the Word of God (Rom 10:17); so cut friends & TV time to study the Word ! So, you don't wanna build yo faith but want pastor & God to help you, what do you think this is? Magic?
John 9:6-7 NLT Then He spit on the ground, made mud with the saliva, and sored the mud over the blind man's eyes. He told him, " Go wash yourself in the pool of Siloam". So the man went and washed and came back seeing.
Matthews 20:32-33 NLT When Jesus heard them, he stopped and called, “What do you want me to do for you?” 33 “Lord,” they said, “we want to see!”
Matthew 15:25-27 (NLT) 25 But she came and worshiped him, pleading again, “Lord, help me!” 26 Jesus responded, “It isn’t right to take food from the children and throw it to the dogs.” 27 She replied, “That’s true, Lord, but even dogs are allowed to eat the scraps that fall beneath their masters’ table.”
If the blind man did not go wash his eyes or the woman did not persist or the other blind man not tell Jesus what he wanted, they woulnt have been healed. It's really shocking to find out how many people would not tell the doctor exactly what the problem is but expect the doctor to heal them. I heard of a Christian girl who got pregant and had a failed abortion but died at the hospital because she did not tell the doctors and parents the truth, it was her responsibility!
So, if you don't have faith like those people Jesus healed, it is your responsibility to build it; how? Faith come by hearing and hearing by the Word of God (Rom 10:17); so cut friends & TV time to study the Word ! So, you don't wanna build yo faith but want pastor & God to help you, what do you think this is? Magic?
God's responsibility vs ours
God had always set boundaries for His responsibilities and for man's responsibilities.
God had always set boundaries for His responsibilities and for man's responsibilities.
Genesis 2:16-17 NLT But the LORD God warned him, "You may freely eat the fruit of every tree in the garden (17) —except the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. If you eat its fruit, you are sure to die."
Joshua 23:12-13 NLT "But if you turn away from Him and cling to the customs of the survivors of these nations remaining among you, and if you intermarry with them, (13) then know for certain that the LORD your God will no longer drive them out of your land. Instead, they will be a snare and a trap to you, a whip for your backs and thorny brambles in your eyes, and you will vanish from this good land the LORD your God has given you.
Therefore if we find Adam and Eve dead, then we would know they are responsible for it - they ate the fruit! If we find the Israelites being tormented by enemies and driven out of their land, we cant blame God for not protecting them, they are responsible for intermarrying gentiles! It always seems to shock me when people run to pastors for prayers during problems as if they are not responsible for the fruits of what they have sown:-
Galatians 6:7 NLT Don't be misled—you cannot mock the justice of God. You will always harvest what you plant.
You can twist the message of grace and manipulate scriptures all you want but the fact is:- the principle of sow and reap is inevitable. We shall discuss this in detail on the next offering but let's return to the main reason I am writing this offering:-
Law of responsibilities
In their book, Boundaries, psychologists Dr Henry Cloud and John Townsend write : "Problems arise when boundaries of responsibilities are confused. We are to love one another, not be one another. I cant feel your feelings for you. I cant think for you. I cant behave for you. I cant work through the dissapointments that limits bring for you. In short I can't grow for you, only you can."
There is a 40 year old man who never worked but has three children and a wife who sold paraffin to make extra money at home as she is a breadwinner. He fights with the ten year old daughter for the paraffin money screaming, “where are the two five rands you sold paraffin for?... How can you give it your mother? I could have bought a beer and two cigarettes with it!” Besides beating his wife until the nurses placed her with the copses in the hospital thinking that she was dead, her 40 year old husband often verbally abused her saying things like “why don’t you get a man who has money to help you. Why did you make so many children?” after beating his wife, his parents still protected him at that age, took him saying that they would get him a better younger wife. The man never learnt responsibilities because parents did and later he expected his wife to continue where they stopped, he never had a reason to work.2 Thessalonians 3:10 NLT (10) Even while we were with you, we gave you this command: "Those unwilling to work will not get to eat."
Next we shall discuss saying no to suffering someone else's consequences!
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